Is possible to be happy in a passive aggressive marriage?

Is possible to be happy in a passive aggressive marriage?

http://alfaprimalm.hubpages.com/hub/how-to-survive-a-passive-aggressive-marriage

Of course, you can always write to me, and ask questions!

neil@passiveaggresive.com

How to Deal With a Passive Aggressive Husband

Are you wondering what kind of life could you have with a good partner? Perhaps your mistake can be marrying a person who  will act as a passive aggressive person with you. 



How to Deal With a Passive Aggressive Husband

A secure partner is a responsive partner

How do you know if your beloved will be there for you when you have a moment of need?

It all begins with attachments...



A secure partner is a responsive partner

How can you know about men's emotional needs, if the clam up?

How can you know about the emotional needs of your man?

 

Here we recommend this post about emotional needs:

http://passiveaggressivetest.com/passive-aggression/why-men-dont-get-their-needs-met/506/

Coach Nora

How to deal with a passive aggressive husband?

 There is a steady progression in the process of realizing the main cause of some spousal behaviors.

In this
progression, you go slowly discovering what’s is wrong in your marriage.
First you feel that something is odd, because you have some feelings of
hurt that don’t correspond with the objective situation…you are happily
married, and then some response from your spouse makes the whole
perception shake, and you are not so sure who you are.

As one
woman at the end of her rope described this constant passive
aggression as a situation where she would receive either punishment or
love, in a sequence without any logic.

Please, read more here:



How to deal with a passive aggressive husband?

Loving an emotionally unavailable man? we feel your pain....

Is there an emotionally unavailable man in your life?

We are working on the issue of people who can't connect with others at a personal level, due to having an avoidant attachment from childhood. This people can connect with others, because the initial trauma has condicioned them to expect either abuse or abandonment from others. So, is better to detach emotionally from others...up until the point when they have to be in a relationship.

This is a real challenge: they need company; everybody else has a partner or is part of a couple, and they try to relate to other person in an intimate relationship...that is empty of substance. And it has to be done with a person who ignores the root of the detachment...perhaps repressed and forgotten by the same man who plays the role of single kind man in search of his love...up until you take the bait.

Learn to identify the signals that tell if you are in a "relationship" with a man that is emotionally unavailable, here:

http://creativeconflicts.com/still-chasing-emotionally-unavailable-man/

When emotional needs are ignored, what we need to have is conflicts!

Did you here about the need to fight with the spouse about everything but the real frustration of our deep needs? it is kind of sorry, but here it goes...:



When emotional needs are ignored, what we need to have is conflicts!

The Silent Marriage: How to protect Your Marriage

More Pain than Fun? Are You Dealing with a Passive Aggressive Partner?

How to Identify Passive Aggression in your Life

Neil Warner

A Passive Aggressive Definition

• Passive aggressive behavior is defined as the disguised aggression that results in negative behavior. It is a purposeful but sneaky way to express feelings of resistance and anger.

 

• A passive aggressive person is unlikely to communicate displeasure openly, or say ‘No’ to a request outright. Instead, they may simply avoid more interaction with you, or try to evade the problem. They may ‘forget’ to complete a requested task, or deliberately stall or prevent something from happening, making excuses as to why it was not done.

 

• They may also engage in behavior such as trying to turn the situation around to make them the ‘victim’, or blaming others for their own behavior. They may also stop doing positive behaviors they normally engage in, for example cleaning or making you a cup of coffee in the mornings.

 

• Finally, if forced into the job or situation they do not wish to be in, a passive aggressive person may deliberately do a bad job, so as to frustrate so much the people who supervise him, and preventing them to give that task back to him.

Passive Aggressive Men

 

 

A relationship with a passive aggressive man can be very difficult to deal with.

He’s the type of guy who will avoid responsibility and conflict head on, choosing to withdraw or avoid or deny that there is a real conflict.

 

He may appear to go along with your plans, only to withhold something else later to ‘punish’ you for what you ‘made’ him do.

Passive aggressive men will usually do anything to avoid an argument. They may refuse to discuss an issue, or simply walk away.

 

Ever asked your husband or partner to do the washing, only to end up with a single red sock in with the whites? Perhaps he continually burns dinner, even though he knew how to cook when you were dating? This is classic behavior for a passive aggressive man, who will often continue to perform a task badly, rather than simply tell you they’d rather not be doing it in the first place.

How to Deal with A Passive Aggressive Man

When the passive aggressive person is very close to you, the situation can be especially difficult. You may be wondering how to deal with a passive aggressive husband or wife?

 

As with all passive aggressive people, it’s important to remember not to take their behavior personally. Given the intimacy of the relationship, doing so could quickly become very hurtful. Instead, remember that this is a behavior that has become ingrained over years, and can often be a coping mechanism for your partner.

 

For example, they may have grown up in a family where expressing negative opinions or emotions were frowned upon. Perhaps someone important in their early life had these traits themselves and this was all they learnt on how to handle disagreements or conflicts.

 

If your partner is passive aggressive, there are a number of steps you can take to limit the effect. If they give you the silent treatment for example, don’t push the original point, but also don’t ignore them entirely in return.

 

When you are ignored or brushed aside, you may find yourself reacting more strongly and harshly the more the behavior happens, to the point you find yourself screaming at your partner. Unfortunately, all this will achieve is to make the passive aggressive person withdraw further, and perhaps even give them a justification in their mind for this behavior.

Instead, try reacting calmly. Hear them out on any concerns, but do not take on board things you know aren’t true. Remember to express your own concerns, but resist the urge you will likely feel to be defensive.

 

It’s important to realize that the only thing you can do is let them know what their behavior is doing to the relationship. You cannot change a passive aggressive partner yourself. They must learn to see beyond their learned responses and see how they are hurting the ones they love.

Of course, you can always get support for yourself, and learn ways of protecting and healing your self from this relationship's damages.
 

Do you Confront, Ignore or Suffer Passive Aggressive Behavior?

Do you Confront, Ignore or Suffer Passive Aggressive Behavior?

Late Divorce and Passive Aggression: are they connected?

Late Divorce and Passive Aggression: are they connected?

Time to raise your inner child?

Time to raise your inner child?

How to Use Logic Over Emotions, to Negotiate With Him

If you have been frustrated because he does not understand what you want, you need to consider that 

men use a different code from women, so you need a different approach to communicate with him.

This article give you ideas on how to pass on the message :



Learn How to Use Logic Over Emotions, to Negotiate With Him

 

Learn How to Use Logic Over Emotions, to Negotiate With Him

Learn How to Use Logic Over Emotions, to Negotiate With Him

Are you in a Passive Aggressive Relationship?

Healthy Relationship Survey: are you represented here?

Healthy Relationship Survey: are you represented here?

Is Change Possible in Your Marriage? Let’s find out!

Is Change Possible in Your Marriage? Let’s find out!

Childhood wounds are part of your love story now?

Childhood wounds are part of your love story now?

http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/what-would-make-your-valentines-day-happier/

http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/what-would-make-your-valentines-day-happier/

Being Ignored in A Marriage Hurts!

Being Ignored in A Marriage Hurts!